It’s become a tradition at Brelby to spend the month of November reflecting on our artform and how it impacts us through our annual Blogathon. This year, in honor of our 10th Season, our Blogathon participants will be sharing lists of 10 things that have impacted them, whether they be lessons or memories…or are looking ahead towards future goals.
Today’s blogger, Kevin Fenderson, is a company member at Brelby. He assists with our marketing initiatives, and can often be seen riffing onstage or challenging himself to learn new skills backstage. Recently seen our productions of Heathers the Musical, Dogfight, and The 25th Annual Putnam Spelling Bee, Kevin has a reputation for lifting our spirits with his sweet music.
For today’s blog, Kevin is sharing 10 lessons that he has learned as an artist.
As I kid, I remember reading the poem All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten by Robert Fulghum. A lot of it made sense from a reading comprehension standpoint, but I didn’t really understand exactly what he was saying. I mean, I do now. Because I’m an adult. Sort of. I’m adult-ish, at least. As
I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned a lot. Most of it from my desire to be an artist. A performer. I’m going to take you through my own version of his poem. But it’s not going to rhyme. And I’m calling it Ten Lessons I’ve Learned From Being An Artist. Buckle up, buttercups, cuz here we go!
- You’re allowed to be human. Even when portraying someone else, having emotions that are your own, even partially, is totally allowed.
- Living your passion can lead to being an emotional mess…and that’s okay!
- Not everyone will understand you, who you are, why you do the things you do.
- You have to be like Elsa and “Let it Go” when that inevitably happens. How people view you is on them, not you.
- While performing can be a great high, it’s only temporary. You need to learn to balance, to take time for yourself. Otherwise, the burnout is REAL, and you’ll wind up hating the art you’re creating.
- Life is tough. It’s tougher if you’re stupid. This applies to art too. Make good choices in regards to the art you create, and the people you create it with.
- You do not have to be friends with every single person in the community. Toxicity can exist anywhere. It is perfectly acceptable to cut ties with performers, directors, and theatres in which you don’t feel safe, supported, or if you feel attacked or mocked.
- Rejection exists in the art world just as much as it does in the real world, if not more so. Don’t take it personally.
- Don’t believe rumors in the community. Instead, trust your gut. Someone else’s experience should not dictate yours.
- We are our own harshest critics. Go easy on yourself. Because you are enough. You are more than enough. It is unBELIEVable how enough you are. (Shout out to the homie Alexxis!)
Okay, I’m no Robert Fulghum. I get that. But at least I’m not charging you to read my thoughts! Go forth and make something beautiful!